I chatted with my old friend couple days ago on Facebook, and he told me he just broke up with his girlfriend. Maybe I was nosy and curious, so I asked him what happened? Then he told me that he saw his girlfriend and an unknown man inside a coffee shop, and they looked so intimate. My friend was furious about what he saw, and he couldn't believe why his girlfriend treated him like that. Later he asked his girlfriend who the guy was and why she was with him, his girlfriend said that guy was her common friend, she also said she had her own friends, guys, women. What my friend saw at the coffee shop was only a misunderstanding, his girlfriend continued to explain. However my friend thought she was lying, she fabricated a story to cover the fact that she was dating another guy. Of course, his girlfriend was upset also, she thought my friend didn't understand her at all. My friend thought he couldn't tolerate that kind of thing happened to himself, he said instead of continuing the arguments, the best solution was to break up peacefully.
After hearing my friend's break up story, I felt very pity, I felt pity not just because he lost his girlfriend, but also some misunderstanding caused they breaking up. What I want to say is I didn't witness anything, I just heard what my friend told me, so I can't arbitrarily say who was right or who was wrong on this. But there is one thing that I can tell everyone here - what a couple needs is trust and honest. These two things are very important, whether they are boyfriend-girlfriend or husband-wife, being together is a fate, is a fortune. You trust her / him, then he / she will also be honest to you. Human relation is that intriguing, a good relationship is relied on the efforts of both sides. Why did you guys break up? Only because of some misunderstandings? This is not worth it. Back to my friend's break up story, he said he saw his girlfriend at the coffee shop with another guy, if I were my friend I would first understand what was going on, maybe that guy was really just a friend, they might not have other relationships. Everyone has his / her male or female friends, but it doesn't necessarily mean they have that kind of relationship. Opposites attract, (obviously I'm not) some people may really look attractive, some people may easily get attention from opposite sex. Again, in this opened society, it's not really big deal.
Trust is one thing, honest is another thing, and they are complementary. Let's talk about my friend's girlfriend again, I think she didn't have to cover anything, if she just went to meet her friend, she could tell my friend honestly where she was going and who she was going to meet, there is no need to disguise anything. If you really love her / him, you have to be honest to him / her.
Moreover, if you start a relationship, you should have it whole-heartedly, don't think anything else, just to love. Love the person you love, give your heart to him / her. If you can't love whole-heartedly, you probably can't continue the relationship, I mean you can have it for a while, but not for a long time. It just like a phrase that I recently learned from a drama "There's only fall in love, there's no step in love."
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