There's Only Fall In Love, No Step In Love

I chatted with my old friend couple days ago on Facebook, and he told me he just broke up with his girlfriend. Maybe I was nosy and curious, so I asked him what happened? Then he told me that he saw his girlfriend and an unknown man inside a coffee shop, and they looked so intimate. My friend was furious about what he saw, and he couldn't believe why his girlfriend treated him like that. Later he asked his girlfriend who the guy was and why she was with him, his girlfriend said that guy was her common friend, she also said she had her own friends, guys, women. What my friend saw at the coffee shop was only a misunderstanding, his girlfriend continued to explain. However my friend thought she was lying, she fabricated a story to cover the fact that she was dating another guy. Of course, his girlfriend was upset also, she thought my friend didn't understand her at all. My friend thought he couldn't tolerate that kind of thing happened to himself, he said instead of continuing the arguments, the best solution was to break up peacefully.

After hearing my friend's break up story, I felt very pity, I felt pity not just because he lost  his girlfriend, but also some misunderstanding caused they breaking up. What I want to say is I didn't witness anything, I just heard what my friend told me, so I can't arbitrarily say who was right or who was wrong on this. But there is one thing that I can tell everyone here - what a couple needs is trust and honest. These two things are very important, whether they are boyfriend-girlfriend or husband-wife, being together is a fate, is a fortune. You trust her / him, then he / she will also be honest to you. Human relation is that intriguing, a good relationship is relied on the efforts of both sides. Why did you guys break up? Only because of some misunderstandings? This is not worth it. Back to my friend's break up story, he said he saw his girlfriend at the coffee shop with another guy, if I were my friend I would first understand what was going on, maybe that guy was really just a friend, they might not have other relationships. Everyone has his / her male or female friends, but it doesn't necessarily mean they have that kind of relationship. Opposites attract, (obviously I'm not) some people may really look attractive, some people may easily get attention from opposite sex. Again, in this opened society, it's not really big deal.

Trust is one thing, honest is another thing, and they are complementary. Let's talk about my friend's girlfriend again, I think she didn't have to cover anything, if she just went to meet her friend, she could tell my friend honestly where she was going and who she was going to meet, there is no need to disguise anything. If you really love her / him, you have to be honest to him / her.

Moreover, if you start a relationship, you should have it whole-heartedly, don't think anything else, just to love. Love the person you love, give your heart to him / her. If you can't love whole-heartedly, you probably can't continue the relationship, I mean you can have it for a while, but not for a long time. It just like a phrase that I recently learned from a drama "There's only fall in love, there's no step in love."

Rome Wasn't Built In A Day - So Were My Media Skills

Tomorrow I'll be done with the summer intensive field video production class at City College of San Francisco, and I have already gained some sorts of skills for planning and shooting video on location, not to mention that class has somehow refreshed and further strengthened my editing skills. Anyway, after tomorrow, I'll not only have the skills for creating and producing studio-based video programs, but I'll also be able to create, plan, shoot and edit a nice video package.

That is certainly something that I didn't think I could achieve before, and what makes me feel even more proud is that after finishing this class I'll have the eligibility to request "Television Production" certificate from the Broadcast Department. Besides this one, I have already awarded "Sound Design" and "Video Production / Editing" certificates, and I have also established the eligibility for the "Broadcast Motion Graphics" certificate. Hopefully I'll have five certificates by the end of this year, it just like the old proverb "Rome wasn't built in a day", certainly all my media skills were not built in a few days. I did attribute a lot of my own efforts to have today, everything is just hard-won.

All right, I still have one more final exam for my field video production class tomorrow afternoon, until next time.

My Bumpy Life In The US - No Way To Turn Around

Something that I wish I could continue right here... On the first few days after landing in the U.S. soil ten years ago, I have ever had a dream that I would have better achievement and better life than in my home place. But the fact is I can only live in a dirty and nasty neighborhood of the City, I wish I could change my life and get rid of the bad living condition, I was so naive, I was even thinking that my dream would come true on one day. Living in the financial difficulties and an unbearable neighborhood, my feeling of inferiority has become stronger and stronger...

I know I have no way to turn my life around, I can only endure my pain, keep my tears not falling out, and tell people that I'm living well right now. But who knows my pain? Sometimes when I lay down on bed I start sobbing, no one knows. Sometimes I feel down (the fact is I always feel down) and nobody is around, I can only tell myself, if I could leave this country someday, I would consider my ten years as a dream, a ten-year long dream, and I would wake up from that dream, I would say I have never been to the U.S., everything would be a dream, but the bad thing would be I have wasted ten years of my life.

Every time when I see or when I know someone who has achieved a better life in the U.S. even they have been in this country for only a few years, I keep blaming myself, why people can achieve something and have something they want but I can't? Why people can go anywhere they want to go but I can't? Why people don't have to worry about their money and living conditions but I have to? Why people can hang out with other people but I can't? Lots of similar questions that I wish to ask myself, but I know I can never solve these questions.

I don't have a lot of demands, I just want I could have worry-free life, my financial condition is stable, I don't have to fear about the place that I live in, and when it is possible, I wish I could travel around the country or any place that I have never been to, I really wish I can know this world better. Whenever I'm free I could talk freely with my confidant and best friends on everything and a glass of wine. We would all have an enjoyable talk, and my life would be getting better. Unfortunately, I never have the ability to make any of the above happens, never. My life is that bumpy... Nothing more than that.